Men
Learning how to show up in relationships.
Therapy for men looking to better understand themselves and how they show up in relationships
You may not have been shown how.
Many men were never taught how to think about emotions relationally.
I enjoy working with men who want to better understand themselves and their relationships. This often includes learning how to function more relationally—how to identify emotions, communicate more clearly, tolerate vulnerability, and stay present in connection rather than defaulting to withdrawal, defensiveness, or fixing.
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Therapy doesn’t require you to become someone you’re not. It’s about expanding your capacity for intimacy, honesty, and emotional flexibility so your relationships can feel more grounded and more satisfying.
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You don’t have to figure this out on your own.
What might be coming up for you?
There’s often a lot that people are holding, including:
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Difficulty identifying or expressing emotions
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Feeling misunderstood in relationships
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Pulling back, shutting down, or avoiding conflict
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Defaulting to fixing or problem-solving instead of staying in the conversation
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Frustration that things don’t seem to land the way you intend
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Wanting to feel more connected, but not knowing how
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Struggling to balance independence with connection
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Repeating patterns in relationships that don’t feel good
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These patterns don’t have to stay the same.
How can therapy help?
Therapy isn’t about changing who you are or forcing something unnatural. It offers space to understand how you relate to yourself and others, and what gets in the way when things don’t go the way you want them to.
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In our work together, therapy can help you:
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Put language to what you’re feeling in real time
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Stay in conversations that would usually feel easier to avoid
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Notice your patterns in relationships as they’re happening
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Communicate more clearly without shutting down or escalating
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Tolerate vulnerability without feeling overwhelmed by it
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Feel more grounded and intentional in how you show up
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This is about expanding how you can be in relationships, not becoming someone different.
Why work with Susanna Vargo?
I work with men who want a clearer understanding of how they show up in relationships.
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We focus on what’s happening in real time—what you’re noticing, what’s hard to say, and how you respond. From there, we work on shifting those patterns in a way that actually translates outside of session.
There’s a lot that can come up when you start approaching relationships differently. Below are answers to common questions about how therapy can support you.